Just yesterday I was wondering where you were - your last posts have not indicated (I see now that you planned it that way!).
Two months would be way too long for me! J and I also spend a tremendous amount of time together (and yes, other people do wonder how we do it). I would probably enjoy being alone for a little bit to, you know, assert my independance etc, but then I too would be like a lovesick teenager. That's how I know this coming year together will be more than fine.
I'm glad that you're going to be on the road again, and glad that you're husband is going to join you.
It's hard, isn't it. My wife and I were apart for four months. I just wrapped up a three visit with her. We shall be apart another five months before she returns home. Seeing her was good. Leaving her and thinking of another five months is almost unbearable.
You have to see your relationship/love in an abstract sense. That's not easy, thinking "I love him/her, but I'll put that in the back of my mind." Acting like a love-lorn 16-year-old sucks, no matter what age you are. I have to stay very busy in order to be anything but mopey.
I TOTALLY get this. Before I met Francisco (well, before I married him; we were friends for five years before we got married), I was a totally independent globe trotter who traveled alone. But since we both work at home, like you and Drew, we're accustomed to spending our days together, and like you guys, we're just fine with that. In 2008, we were fortunate to be able to travel a lot together, and I saw the world in a whole new way, as he did, sharing it together as we did. I also continue to travel a lot alone, though, because his immigration status prevents him from traveling to most countries. When I'm gone, I find myself wishing he could be along for the ride, and though I'm present where I am when I'm there, I'm also really really happy when I get back home.
That snow scene looks so perfectly tranquil. I mostly complain about winter, but there is something very calming and reassuring about that crisp air and snow-covered scenery.
Good luck with the apartment search. I'm glad your husband will be able to join you again very soon!
Two months is a long time, I have been a perpetual traveler for so long, I came up with a Traveler Rules for when a person stops traveling.Three Month Traveler Rule
Beth Partin
· 10 months ago
Two months sounds about right to me. I'm still in the planning stage for travel, and my husband still says things like, "Why do you want to leave me?" But I think we'll both get used to the idea and, if I travel like this enough, he'll find a way to join me.
For the past two years, I've been living in Japan. My girlfriend is in Brazil. We saw each other 3 times, or 5 months out of 24. If you strech it a bit, we met 28 months ago, so we spent 9 months together and 19 apart.
It's crazy. I couldn't agree more with the 2-month rule. 5 or 6 months apart, wow. I don't know how we managed it. Somehow, we did. Although we had a 6-month rule, hahaha!
Right now she's coming to Japan for good. As I write this, the must be changing planes in NY. And from now on, no more than 5 days apart.
Cheers, Diogo
Eric
· 6 months ago
Glad to find you again, Christine, and glad that you've found a lifestyle that brings you greater happiness!
I traveled the U.S. and Canada for eight and a half weeks, and I was surprised to make it through without it being too hard on my marriage. That said, I was able to check in visually with Skype periodically, which is way, way better than the phone calls and texting we also used to stay in touch on a more regular basis. Somehow *seeing* her, even if over a computer screen, was a more satisfying way to tide me over until the next communication. Of course, wifi is not available everywhere one goes, but even once every week or two is better than not seeing each other for all that time, as I'm sure you can attest!
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Two months would be way too long for me! J and I also spend a tremendous amount of time together (and yes, other people do wonder how we do it). I would probably enjoy being alone for a little bit to, you know, assert my independance etc, but then I too would be like a lovesick teenager. That's how I know this coming year together will be more than fine.
I'm glad that you're going to be on the road again, and glad that you're husband is going to join you.
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You have to see your relationship/love in an abstract sense. That's not easy, thinking "I love him/her, but I'll put that in the back of my mind." Acting like a love-lorn 16-year-old sucks, no matter what age you are. I have to stay very busy in order to be anything but mopey.
I'm glad Hubby will be joining you.
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Good luck with the apartment search. I'm glad your husband will be able to join you again very soon!
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It's crazy. I couldn't agree more with the 2-month rule. 5 or 6 months apart, wow. I don't know how we managed it. Somehow, we did. Although we had a 6-month rule, hahaha!
Right now she's coming to Japan for good. As I write this, the must be changing planes in NY. And from now on, no more than 5 days apart.
Cheers,
Diogo
I traveled the U.S. and Canada for eight and a half weeks, and I was surprised to make it through without it being too hard on my marriage. That said, I was able to check in visually with Skype periodically, which is way, way better than the phone calls and texting we also used to stay in touch on a more regular basis. Somehow *seeing* her, even if over a computer screen, was a more satisfying way to tide me over until the next communication. Of course, wifi is not available everywhere one goes, but even once every week or two is better than not seeing each other for all that time, as I'm sure you can attest!